WTF IS THE DEAL WITH THAT?!
EVERYONE is stuck on this online dating craze and it’s getting out of control! People nowadays are ALL meeting online rather than in person.
For those of you who aren’t familiar with Tinder, it is an application for smart phones that allows others to connect via Facebook interests, friends, and proximity. Users have the option to swipe right (saying they like that person) or swipe left (saying they dislike that person). You and that person are only able to chat if they have swiped right on you as well! The whole process feels like a game. A really, really FUN game!!
I know that I am guilty of taking the application seriously and also using it out of pure enjoyment. HEY! Swiping right on a SUPER-HOT model and having it match up with him is great for my self-confidence! I have had a few relationships build off of Tinder actually, and I have also made some GREAT friends from it too!
From my personal experiences….Tinder is definitely a decent way to find someone, as long as you are able to pick the bad ones out of the bunch. Dating on there is TOTALLY possible! My last boyfriend I actually met on Tinder and we dated for a solid 7 months! Fell in love, did everything together, that whole deal. It ended like any other relationship would…the only difference of our relationship than anyone else’s was how we met!
For me, meeting in real life places is difficult. I work a TON and I am not the type of person who will walk up to a guy I find attractive at a bar and ask them for their number. It’s just not my personality! So Tinder almost gives me a barrier to hide behind when it comes to meeting guys. I get to hide how awkward I can be at first until I am ready to meet face to face and then those nerves have gone away!
So I went ahead and interviewed two of my friends to find out what their opinions and experiences have been on Tinder thus far. They allowed me to get UP CLOSE & PERSONAL with their dating lives….
My friend Annie was actually a little skeptical about the whole online dating scene at first, until she talked to me and I told her all my success stories and how fun it can be! She actually has a cool and successful Tinder experience which I definitely admire myself!
Did you take Tinder Seriously?
-I had fun with it. I’d go on dates and meet cool people. But I also just enjoyed making jokes and being weird and whatever. I wasn’t looking for anything specific, but I just let whatever happen happen.
What have been some of your best experiences/encounters on Tinder?
-I met my boyfriend, Ted, on Tinder! Our story is funny because we were actually supposed to meet like two months before we actually met, but we both were gone…somehow, we still kept in touch and we finally agreed to meet. Dating Ted is like dating someone I knew for my whole life honestly. We’ve gone to Sweden together, we went to Vegas, and we’re currently (like, as I speak) looking for an apartment together! I don’t think we would have crossed paths if it wasn’t for Tinder.
What would you change about online dating if you could?
-I still think there is a small stigma about it. It’s not AS bad as it used to be, but it’s still kind of there. And since tinder is a huge “hookup” app and gets a bad rep, I’d like to change that. When Ted and I were first dating someone (who I’m not close with) said he’s probably still dating multiple Tinder girls, even though we were exclusive very on. That was obviously not true, but…it’s something I’ve gotten and it’s kind of annoying.
Now, my buddy Matt has a different story from Annie’s. Young, good-looking bachelor still looking for that one special lady! But he still roams Tinder like a champ!
Do you/did you take tinder seriously or was it more for fun?
I never took it too seriously, but now it’s a total joke to me. When I first started online dating, everything was too long. I used to mention what I did for a living, thought I should include how involved I am in activism and add something quirky about myself to show I have varied interests. I played around with different ways to tweek my bio, but now all it says is “swipe left if you want to die, swipe right if you want to die”
What are some of the worst experiences you’ve had on Tinder?
The worst part about Tinder is basically a non issue. You start talking to someone, exchange numbers, text, but never meet. That’s the worst I’ve experienced, so it’s really the least of my worries. I’m sure the women on Tinder have some REAL horror stories.
What would you change about online dating if you could?
I would make it a requirement to not be crazy – so no yelling my name or noises outside my apartment building for extended periods of time and no taking photos of my house and sending them to me when I’m not home.
I honestly think that everyone should try Tinder at least once, if not to date people….just purely for the exposure to it. I mean….Annie found LOVE & I can vouch for them when I say they are PERFECT for each other!! And Matt seems to be having fun on it! I love hearing about the interesting people he’s met from there. Technically, his and my friendship started because of Tinder! He is actually a really good friend of my ex that I met on there, and now Matt and I have become buds!
Online dating is an entirely different world all together. Your instincts are tested and you REALLY have to be careful with how you carry yourself on there. I know people say it’s degrading to women….but it’s honestly degrading to men sometimes too! I definitely have had my fair share of guy friends tell me horror stories.
In my honest opinion….Tinder is what YOU make it.
Let me know about your online dating stories! Comment telling me your SUCCESSES and your FLOPS! I would love to hear more.
xx ASH/THE MANAGEMENT